Troy

Very Thankful for Troy
Not to long ago in my past, I sold myself short when it came to relationships. I was so broken in the inside that I would settle for those I dated. I didn’t command respect or feel I deserved to be loved and cherished. Pathways helped me overcome the negative thoughts I had about myself and made me realize what I truly wanted in all areas of my life and what I deserved. After I regained the true me, I wanted a strong marriage. I wanted a strong partner. I grew up watching two wonderful parents and wished if I could only have a taste of that I would be blessed. I've always been someone who was passionate in my beliefs. I am strong in many areas, but those strengths can sometimes be a flaw in that I tend to steamroll over people who don't have the strength to stand up to me and as my mother says, I don’t always know when to keep my mouth shut. I wanted a spouse who was strong enough to stand up to me and who would be equally strong in their support of me. All of you who know me know I can be a lot to handle.
I'm lucky and I'm grateful, I got what I wished for. My husband's strengths complement my own. He gives me support, he loves me unconditionally, he stands beside me and he gives me a swift kick when I need it. He takes care of me, he lets me vent and actually listens and he forgives me. I am thankful for my husband and I'm thankful for the future I will have with him. I love that he is eager to start a family, and wants nothing more than to be a great husband to me and a great father when children come in to our lives. I love that we have both made mistakes in our relationship but loved each other enough to get through and we can both look back and regret some of our choices but be thankful for where they have lead us in our journey together. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is the glue that has held us together. I can be myself, I can be the goofy girl, the serious girl, the over analytical girl, the emotional charged girl. I can show my flaws and he loves me and accepts me. We know the ghosts in the closet, we know each others demons. Knowing that and being completely transparent has been a tremendous gift to our relationship. I am so grateful that my husband can look at me and say with 100% honesty you are all that I want and more than I need, nothing will ever change that.
We're not perfect, we're far from ideal and we're not always going to get it right. But we do learn from our mistakes and we find new ways to make each other smile. We have just begun our journey as husband and wife, but what a great start we have had! He's my best friend. He's the person I want to talk to when things go wrong. He's the one I want to talk to when things go right. He's the one I want to talk to no matter what. I remember a time when I was upset with him and I got so mad because I didn’t know how to talk to him about him…I just always go to him for everything. There is no way to say thank you enough. God has truly blessed me. As my Papi Jack said at our rehearsal dinner, “God is still in the miracle business.” Troy and I are both walking and breathing examples of God’s grace, mercy, forgiveness, love and Miracles. He restored two “damaged goods”, erased the pain, the guilt, the shame, and instilled in us His word and His truth. God is good and he got Troy and I both to where we are today. I am very grateful and thankful for my husband and know that he is truly my gift from God; he was uniquely created for me.